When the Seasons Shift: Astrology, the Nervous System and Finding Our Ground Through October and November

When the Seasons Shift: Astrology, the Nervous System and Finding Our Ground Through October and November

Mercury retrograde, Venus retrograde, the Taurus Full Moon, Scorpio season and the emotional significance of Bonfire Night and Remembrance.

There is something about this time of year that invites us to turn inward. The evenings become darker, the temperature begins to fall, and the natural world seems to be preparing for a period of rest and restoration. Yet while the seasons appear to be slowing down, our internal worlds can sometimes feel quite the opposite. We may find ourselves reflecting more deeply, revisiting old memories, questioning relationships, experiencing unexpected emotions or noticing a sense of unease that we cannot immediately explain.

For those who follow astrology, the closing days of October and the beginning of November 2026 bring together several significant events. Venus has been retrograde since 3 October, Scorpio season began on 23 October, Mercury turned retrograde on 24 October, and a full moon in Taurus arrives on 26 October. Both Mercury and Venus are due to turn direct on 13 November.

Astrologically, these events are associated with reflection, communication, relationships, personal values, security and transformation. However, whether we believe in astrology, enjoy its symbolism or simply appreciate the opportunity for reflection, there is something valuable about considering how we navigate periods of emotional change.

It is important to recognise that there is no scientific evidence that planetary retrogrades or zodiac seasons directly affect our nervous systems, behaviour or emotional wellbeing. Nevertheless, the themes associated with these events can offer a meaningful framework for self-exploration, particularly when viewed through a trauma-informed lens.

And this year, there is another consideration. As we approach Bonfire Night on 5 November, followed by Remembrance Sunday on 8 November and Armistice Day on 11 November, we enter a period that can carry significant emotional weight, particularly for military personnel, veterans, their families and anyone living with the effects of trauma.

Mercury Retrograde: Communication, Misunderstanding and the Activated Nervous System

Mercury retrograde has become something of a familiar expression, often blamed for communication breakdowns, technological problems and misunderstandings. In astrology, Mercury represents communication, thought processes, learning and the way we interpret information. Its retrograde period, running from 24 October to 13 November, is traditionally regarded as a time to revisit conversations, reconsider decisions and reflect on matters that may have been left unresolved.

From a trauma-informed perspective, this offers an opportunity to consider something particularly important: the relationship between our nervous system and the way we communicate.

When we feel safe, connected and emotionally regulated, we are generally better able to listen, reflect, consider alternative perspectives and communicate our needs. However, when our nervous system perceives a threat, whether that threat is immediate, remembered or anticipated, our capacity for reflective communication can become more limited.

We may interpret an innocent comment as criticism, experience silence as rejection, or find ourselves becoming defensive before we have fully understood what someone is trying to say. Equally, we may withdraw from conversations, struggle to find the right words or agree to something simply because disagreement feels uncomfortable.

For people who have experienced trauma, these responses can be influenced by earlier experiences in which communication was associated with conflict, unpredictability, criticism or emotional harm. The nervous system may respond to familiar cues even when the present circumstances are different.

This does not mean we are overreacting or that every misunderstanding is trauma-related. It means that our internal state can influence how we receive and respond to information.

During this period, we might benefit from slowing our conversations down, noticing when our bodies become tense and allowing ourselves time to respond rather than reacting immediately. We can ask for clarification instead of making assumptions, and we can recognise that taking a break from a difficult conversation is sometimes an act of emotional regulation rather than avoidance.

We do not have to resolve every disagreement immediately. Sometimes the most constructive communication begins with recognising that we are not yet in the best emotional state to have the conversation.

Venus Retrograde: Relationships, Self-Worth and the Courage to Reassess

Venus retrograde, which began on 3 October and continues until 13 November, is traditionally associated with reviewing relationships, personal values, love, finances and self-worth. Moving from Scorpio back into Libra, its symbolism invites reflection on emotional honesty, trust, balance and reciprocity.

These themes can be particularly meaningful when we consider the ways in which our experiences shape our understanding of relationships.

For some people, feeling valued has become closely connected with being useful, needed or responsible for others. We may have learned that maintaining harmony requires compromise, that love means putting someone else's needs first, or that being a good partner, parent, friend or colleague involves carrying responsibilities that are not entirely our own.

Over time, these patterns can become so familiar that we no longer question them. We may recognise another person's difficulties with great compassion while minimising the impact of their behaviour upon ourselves.

Trauma-informed reflection invites us to explore these patterns without judgement. We can acknowledge that certain behaviours may once have helped us maintain safety, connection or stability, while also recognising that they may no longer support our wellbeing.

Understanding why someone behaves as they do does not require us to accept behaviour that repeatedly causes harm. Compassion and boundaries are not opposites, and recognising our own needs does not make us selfish.

Perhaps one of the most valuable questions we can ask ourselves during this period is whether our relationships allow us to be authentic. Can we express our feelings without fear? Can we say no without experiencing overwhelming guilt? Can we receive kindness without feeling obliged to earn it?

Our worth is not determined by how much we give, how much we endure or how successfully we meet the expectations of others.

Sometimes personal growth involves recognising that we are allowed to reconsider commitments, expectations and patterns that no longer reflect who we are becoming.

The Taurus Full Moon: Security, Stability and Returning to the Body

The Full Moon in Taurus on 26 October brings another symbolic dimension to this period. In astrology, Taurus is associated with stability, security, comfort, physical wellbeing and our relationship with the material world. Full Moons are traditionally regarded as moments of culmination, awareness and reflection.

While there is no reliable evidence that a full moon directly causes emotional distress or changes nervous system functioning, its symbolism provides a useful opportunity to consider what helps us feel grounded.

Our nervous systems respond to many influences, including sleep, stress, physical health, relationships, sensory experiences and our perception of safety. When life becomes demanding or unpredictable, familiar routines and supportive environments can help restore a sense of stability.

For some, grounding may involve spending time outdoors, enjoying a warm drink, preparing a nourishing meal or connecting with someone they trust. Others may find comfort in creative activities, gentle movement, listening to music or simply sitting quietly in a familiar space.

Grounding is not about forcing ourselves to feel calm. It is about gently reconnecting with the present moment in ways that feel safe and manageable.

It is also important to recognise that some commonly recommended grounding exercises do not feel comfortable for everyone. Closing our eyes, focusing intensely on bodily sensations or practising deep breathing may increase distress for some trauma survivors. Keeping our eyes open, noticing the environment around us or engaging in a simple practical activity may feel more supportive.

The invitation here is to become curious about what genuinely helps us feel secure, rather than assuming that one approach will work for everyone.

Scorpio Season: Transformation, Emotional Depth and the Importance of Choice

Scorpio season, which runs from 23 October until 22 November, is traditionally associated with transformation, emotional depth, truth, vulnerability and the process of letting go.

These themes can resonate with people who are navigating significant life changes, particularly when those changes involve relationships, identity, grief or a reassessment of long-held beliefs.

Transformation is often described as an exciting process of growth, but the reality can be considerably more complicated. We may recognise that something in our lives needs to change while simultaneously grieving what we had hoped it would become. We may feel relief and sadness together or experience moments of confidence followed by uncertainty.

From a trauma-informed perspective, these apparently conflicting emotions do not necessarily indicate that we are moving backwards. They may reflect the complexity of adapting to change.

Our nervous systems often find familiarity reassuring, even when familiar circumstances are uncomfortable. Moving towards something different can therefore bring both hope and apprehension.

We do not need to rush this process or demand immediate clarity from ourselves. Healing and personal development rarely follow a perfectly straight line. There may be periods of progress, moments of exhaustion and times when we need to pause and consolidate what we have learned.

Importantly, we retain the right to choose the pace at which we move forward.

Transformation does not have to mean dramatic action. Sometimes it begins with a quiet recognition that our needs matter, our boundaries deserve respect and our future can be different from our past.

Understanding Our Window of Tolerance

As we move through a potentially emotionally demanding period, it can be helpful to understand the concept of the window of tolerance.

This describes the range of emotional and physiological activation within which we are generally able to manage everyday experiences, think clearly and remain connected to ourselves and others.

When we move beyond this range, our responses may become more intense or more withdrawn.

Some people experience heightened activation, sometimes described as a fight-or-flight response. This may involve anxiety, irritability, racing thoughts, restlessness, increased heart rate or feeling constantly on alert.

Others may experience a more shut-down response, sometimes described as hypoarousal. This can involve emotional numbness, exhaustion, disconnection, reduced motivation or difficulty concentrating.

These responses are not personal failings. They are ways in which our bodies and brains may respond to perceived threat or overwhelming stress.

Our aim is not to remain perfectly calm at all times. Emotional activation is a normal part of being human. Instead, we can learn to recognise our own early warning signs and identify what helps us return towards a more manageable state.

For some people, this may involve movement, supportive conversation or reducing sensory stimulation. For others, it may involve rest, connection, predictable routines or professional support.

The important principle is choice. Regulation strategies should be adapted to the individual, rather than imposed as though everyone experiences distress in the same way.

Bonfire Night: When Celebration Can Become a Trigger

As 5 November approaches, many communities will be preparing for Bonfire Night. For some, fireworks, gatherings and celebrations are associated with excitement, enjoyment and positive memories. For others, however, the sudden noises, bright flashes, vibrations and unpredictability can be deeply unsettling.

This is particularly relevant for people living with post-traumatic stress, including some veterans and serving military personnel who have experienced combat or other traumatic events.

The sound of fireworks can resemble explosions or gunfire, and for someone whose nervous system has learned to associate similar sounds with danger, the response may be immediate and involuntary.

A person may know intellectually that they are safe, yet still experience a racing heart, heightened vigilance, panic, intrusive memories or a powerful urge to escape. Others may become withdrawn, irritable or emotionally disconnected.

This is not a matter of someone simply disliking fireworks or being unable to enjoy a celebration. For some, these sensory experiences can activate traumatic memories and associated physiological responses.

It is also important to remember that fireworks may affect people who have experienced domestic abuse, violence, accidents or other frightening events, as well as autistic people and others with sensory sensitivities. Animals can also become distressed.

A trauma-informed community considers the impact of celebrations on those whose experiences may be very different from our own.

Where possible, giving advance notice of fireworks, respecting advertised display times and being considerate about unexpected loud noises can help people prepare. Those who find fireworks distressing may benefit from planning a quieter environment, using comfortable hearing protection, having a trusted person available or arranging activities that help them feel grounded.

There should be no expectation that someone must expose themselves to distressing sounds simply to prove that they can cope.

Remembrance: Honouring Service While Recognising Invisible Experiences

Just days after Bonfire Night, we approach Remembrance Sunday on 8 November and Armistice Day on 11 November.

These are important opportunities to honour those who have served, those who have lost their lives and the sacrifices made by military personnel and their families.

For many people, Remembrance is a meaningful time of reflection, gratitude, connection and pride. For others, it may also bring sadness, grief, difficult memories or renewed awareness of experiences that continue to affect them.

Military personnel and veterans may be reminded of colleagues who died, traumatic incidents, injuries, losses or the challenges of adjusting to civilian life. Families may carry their own experiences of separation, uncertainty, bereavement or supporting loved ones living with the consequences of service.

Not every veteran experiences trauma, and we should never assume that military service automatically results in psychological difficulties. Equally, we must recognise that some experiences remain deeply affecting long after service has ended.

For someone living with PTSD or complex trauma, the combination of fireworks, commemorative events, media coverage, ceremonial sounds and emotionally significant anniversaries may be particularly challenging.

It is possible to feel pride in having served while also experiencing grief, distress or complicated emotions about what happened. These feelings are not mutually exclusive.

Remembrance should create space for the whole person, not only the public image of courage and resilience.

We can honour service while also recognising vulnerability. We can express gratitude without expecting people to share experiences they would rather keep private. And we can offer support without making assumptions about what someone needs.

Sometimes the most meaningful gesture is simply to check in, listen without judgement and allow someone to decide whether they want to talk.

Supporting Ourselves and Each Other Through a Potentially Turbulent Period

When several emotionally significant events occur close together, it can be useful to think about our capacity rather than simply our commitments.

We may be managing ordinary work and family responsibilities alongside seasonal changes, personal reflections, difficult anniversaries or increased sensory demands.

There is no requirement to participate in every event, attend every gathering or engage in every conversation.

Giving ourselves permission to make choices about our environment, energy and emotional availability can be an important part of maintaining wellbeing.

If we notice ourselves becoming overwhelmed, we can begin by acknowledging what is happening rather than criticising ourselves for it. We might reduce unnecessary demands, seek supportive company, spend time somewhere familiar or allow ourselves additional rest.

We can also be mindful of those around us. A colleague who appears unusually quiet, a family member who becomes irritable or a friend who withdraws may be experiencing something we know nothing about.

We do not need to interrogate people or insist that they explain themselves. A gentle, respectful invitation to talk, without pressure, can sometimes make a considerable difference.

And if someone does share that they are struggling, listening without immediately trying to fix the situation may be more helpful than offering reassurance that everything will be fine.

Trauma-informed support begins with safety, trust, choice, collaboration and respect.

A Particular Message to Our Armed Forces Community

To those currently serving, those who have served, reservists, veterans, military families and those who have lost someone through service, I want to offer a particular acknowledgement as we approach these dates.

You may find this period meaningful and comforting, or you may find it difficult. You may experience pride, sadness, gratitude, anger, grief or a combination of emotions that are difficult to put into words.

Whatever your experience, you do not have to navigate it alone.

There can be considerable pressure, particularly within professions that value strength, resilience and self-reliance, to manage difficulties privately. Yet reaching out for support does not diminish courage, capability or the contribution someone has made.

If you notice that memories, anxiety, sleep difficulties, emotional distress or feelings of isolation are becoming difficult to manage, please consider speaking with someone you trust or contacting a specialist support service.

Families and loved ones matter too. Supporting someone who is struggling can be emotionally demanding, and you are equally deserving of understanding and support.

In the UK, Combat Stress offers a free, confidential, 24-hour helpline for veterans and their families on 0800 138 1619. Serving personnel, mobilised reservists and their families can contact 0800 323 4444. NHS Op COURAGE also provides specialist mental health and wellbeing support for eligible veterans, service leavers, reservists and their families in England.

You do not need to wait until you reach a crisis point before asking for help.

And if you know someone who may find this period difficult, consider reaching out to them. Not to demand a conversation or encourage them to revisit painful memories, but simply to remind them that they have not been forgotten.

Sometimes a quiet message, an invitation for coffee or the reassurance that someone is available to listen can be deeply meaningful.

Moving Forward With Compassion, Awareness and Authenticity

As October gives way to November, we may find ourselves drawn towards reflection, whether through the symbolism of astrology, the changing seasons, personal circumstances or the significance of the dates ahead.

Mercury retrograde invites us to consider how we communicate. Venus retrograde encourages reflection on relationships and self-worth. The Taurus Full Moon offers a symbolic reminder of the importance of stability and grounding, while Scorpio season provides an opportunity to think about transformation and the things we may be ready to release.

These are invitations to reflect, not predictions about how we should feel or what will happen to us.

Our nervous systems are influenced by our experiences, environments, relationships and sense of safety, not by an obligation to follow an astrological timetable.

Perhaps the most compassionate approach to this season is to recognise that we do not all experience the same events in the same way.

For some, the weeks ahead will bring celebration, connection and meaningful remembrance. For others, they may stir grief, difficult memories or a need for greater emotional space. Many of us will experience a mixture of both.

We can allow ourselves to move at our own pace, recognise when we need support and remain curious about what our minds and bodies are communicating.

We can honour our past without allowing it to determine every part of our future. We can care deeply for others while remembering that our own wellbeing matters. And we can recognise that strength is not always demonstrated by how much we endure, but sometimes by our willingness to pause, establish boundaries and reach out.

As the seasons change, perhaps we can offer ourselves and each other a little more patience, a little more understanding and a little less judgement.

We do not have to carry everything alone, and we do not have to wait until we are overwhelmed before allowing ourselves to be supported.

Take care of yourself, be mindful of those around you, and remember that reaching out is always an option.

With Love, Caron💜

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