Common Misconceptions About Trauma-Informed Coaching and Self-Care: Creating Safe and Empowering Spaces


 Common Misconceptions About Trauma-Informed Coaching and Self-Care: Creating Safe and Empowering Spaces

In recent years, "trauma-informed" has become a buzzword in many industries, from healthcare to leadership coaching and even workplace culture. As someone deeply invested in creating safe and empowering environments, I’ve seen how valuable trauma-informed principles can be in transforming lives and spaces. But I’ve also noticed many misconceptions about what it means to be trauma-informed, especially in coaching, self-care, self-leadership, and workplace dynamics.

Let’s break down some of these myths and discuss how we can truly integrate trauma-informed practices into every facet of life.

Misconceptions About Trauma-Informed Coaching

1. Trauma-Informed Coaching is Only for Those with Diagnosed Trauma
One of the biggest myths is that trauma-informed coaching is only relevant for individuals with diagnosed PTSD or known traumatic experiences. The truth? Trauma doesn’t discriminate, and its effects can manifest in subtle ways. Everyone can benefit from a trauma-informed approach because it prioritises safety, choice, and empowerment, principles that support all types of personal growth.

For example, in trauma-informed coaching, the focus isn’t on diving into past wounds but on understanding how past experiences might influence current behaviours and beliefs. It’s about creating a space where clients feel seen and supported, regardless of their history.

2. It’s Just About “Being Nice”
Another common misconception is that trauma-informed coaching is just about being kind or overly accommodating. While compassion is essential, trauma-informed practices are deeply rooted in evidence-based strategies. This approach includes understanding the neurobiology of trauma, recognising triggers, and offering tools that foster self-regulation and resilience.

Trauma-informed coaching doesn’t mean avoiding challenges; it means approaching them in a way that fosters safety and growth.

Self-Care and Trauma-Informed Practices

Misconception: Self-Care is Selfish or Superficial
When we talk about trauma-informed self-care, it’s important to dispel the myth that self-care is indulgent or unnecessary. Trauma-informed self-care is not about bubble baths and spa days (although those can be lovely); it’s about creating routines that help regulate the nervous system, restore energy, and foster emotional well-being.

For example:

  • Mindful Movement: Yoga, walking, or other gentle forms of exercise can help release stored tension in the body.
  • Setting Boundaries: Learning to say no and protecting your energy is a profound act of self-care.
  • Grounding Practices: Techniques like deep breathing, journaling, or even holding a comforting object can help you stay present during stressful moments.

Self-care isn’t selfish, it’s a necessary foundation for showing up fully in your relationships, work, and community.

Self-Leadership Through a Trauma-Informed Lens

Misconception: Leadership is About Authority, Not Vulnerability
Trauma-informed self-leadership flips the script on traditional leadership concepts. It recognises that leading yourself or others requires an understanding of how trauma influences behaviours, decision-making, and relationships.

Trauma-informed self-leadership involves:

  1. Emotional Regulation: Recognising and managing your own triggers to lead with clarity rather than reactivity.
  2. Empathy and Self-Awareness: Understanding your own story so you can lead with compassion and authenticity.
  3. Empowerment, Not Control: Instead of micromanaging, trauma-informed leadership emphasises trust, collaboration, and shared decision-making.

Creating Trauma-Informed Spaces, Including Workplaces

Misconception: Trauma-Informed Workplaces Are Too Soft for Productivity
One of the most damaging myths is that trauma-informed spaces, especially workplaces, sacrifice productivity for the sake of sensitivity. In reality, the opposite is true. Trauma-informed workplaces foster trust, collaboration, and psychological safety, which are critical for innovation and engagement.

A trauma-informed workplace:

  • Promotes Inclusivity: Acknowledging that everyone’s experiences shape how they show up at work.
  • Encourages Open Communication: Providing safe channels for employees to express concerns without fear of judgement or retaliation.
  • Offers Flexibility: Recognising that rigid policies can unintentionally harm those dealing with trauma and offering alternatives when possible.

Simple Steps to Create Trauma-Informed Spaces

  1. Prioritise Safety: This includes both physical safety (ergonomic spaces, clear evacuation procedures) and emotional safety (zero tolerance for bullying or harassment).
  2. Train Leadership: Ensure that leaders understand trauma-informed principles and can model empathetic, inclusive behaviour.
  3. Normalise Self-Care: Encourage breaks, mental health days, and wellness initiatives without stigma.
  4. Feedback-Friendly Culture: Create mechanisms for honest feedback where employees feel heard and valued.

Building Truly Trauma-Informed Spaces

Whether in coaching, self-care, self-leadership, or workplace culture, trauma-informed practices revolve around five key principles:

  1. Safety: Ensuring physical, emotional, and psychological safety.
  2. Trustworthiness and Transparency: Building relationships based on honesty and consistency.
  3. Peer Support: Fostering connection through shared experiences and understanding.
  4. Empowerment and Choice: Providing options and celebrating strengths.
  5. Cultural Humility: Recognising and respecting diverse experiences and perspectives.

Final Thoughts

Creating trauma-informed spaces isn’t about perfection—it’s about intention. It’s about recognising the unseen struggles that people carry and offering them the tools and environments they need to thrive.

As someone who has navigated trauma as a nurse, veteran, and spouse, I know how transformative these principles can be. They’re not just strategies; they’re a way of fostering connection, resilience, and hope.

Let’s keep striving to build spaces—whether in coaching sessions, personal practices, or workplaces—where everyone feels safe, supported, and empowered to lead their best lives.

What are your thoughts on trauma-informed practices? Have you encountered any misconceptions or seen these principles in action? I’d love to hear from you!

Empowering Care | Restoring Balance. Caron 💜

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